How To Succeed With Women

A Highly Successful Seducer always pursues more than one woman

In interviewing and modeling the behavior of Effective Seducers, I learned a terrible truth: if you are trying to become an expert seducer, pursuing only one woman is worse for your sex life than pursuing none at all.

Why is this so? Because when you are pursuing only one woman, you have no backup plan. You have all your eggs in one basket. You can’t be playful and pursue her unconcerned with outcomes, because if she’s your only prospect, she’s your only chance for sex. You’ll get overly concerned that if things don’t work out you won’t have anyone else to pursue. It most likely will make you dependent on her in some way. You will likely push her away from this dependency attitude. Further, if after a few dates she doesn’t like you, then you will feel that there is something wrong with you. Your inability to relax with her will drive her away and leave you feeling bad about yourself.

Many of my friends have fallen into this trap. You can follow all the other habits of the Highly Effective Seducer, but if you pursue only one woman, you will never experience an abundant sex life.

Women are attracted to men who are relaxed, creative and exciting. Pursuing more than one woman brings out both of these qualities because it keeps you engaged with life in a creative exciting way. When you know the woman you are after is one of many, her response matters less than it would if she were your only hope for sex. You can be more relaxed, because you aren’t risking offending your only possible sexual partner. If you do lose her for some reason, you can just move on to the next woman.

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