How To Succeed With Women

A Highly Successful Seducers knows that rejection is the key to relationship prosperity

You're on the third date. You know it's time to make your move. She seems to like you. But who can tell? Maybe she's still wondering why she decided to go out on a date with you in the first place. But you have to make sure your move now. After all, you are ready. But what if she says "no" ??

Or perhaps you aren't even out on a date yet. Maybe you are looking across the room at her, that unmet angel, that wonderful woman who you wish you could bring yourself to talk to. You could go up to her. This could be your only chance. But what if she rejects you? What if she's mean to you? What if she say "no" ??

The Highly Effective Seducer sees things completely differently. Rather than seeing rejection as a reflection of his value as a man, the Highly Effective Seducer has one rule about rejection: "Rejection us the key to relationship prosperity". An Effective Seducer thinks about rejection differently than does an ineffective seducer. He makes better decisions about what a women's rejection means to him.

To the Highly Effective Seducer, rejection is a stepping stone to massive sexual success because he sees it as one more "no" he doesn't have to hear on the way to an inevitable "yes" with some other woman. After that same interaction, an Effective Seducer might say to himself, "Wow, she sure didn't have much of a sense of humor. I wonder if she's not feeling well. Perhaps she had a friend die from suffocation in a plastic bag. Who knows? " If he does think that she didn't like him, his only thought is "Well, it's a good thing I found out now, before wasting more time and energy on her. Now I can concentrate on all the women who will want to be with me!" The Highly Effective Seducer explains the interaction to himself in such a way that he feels good about himself. He's gotten one more "no" out of the way, and can move on to the "YES" from some other woman.

Here are the basic principles the Highly Effective Seducer follows in the face of rejection, which you must also follow. First, he leaves his self-image out of it. He comes up with an explanation for her rejection that has to do with her, or with circumstances, rather than with him. He thinks to himself that "She must have a boyfriend", rather than "I must not be attractive".

Second, he redirects his attention. Rather than giving his brain an opportunity to dwell on the rejection, he thinks about something else instead. He asks "What's on the dessert menu"? or "What's on TV tonight"? If his brain does go back to the rejection, he reminds himself it's one more "no" he won't have to hear on his way to an inevitable "YES". The Effective Seducer does not allow rejections to mean that he is unworthy or bad in any way, Though we dislike the overly new age/positive thinking movement, we saw a poster recently that poignantly sums up our points. It said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take".

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