The Five Secrets of A Seductive Home
Think about your home. Think about the kitchen, the living room, your bedroom. Picture it in your mind. Now ask yourself the following questions:
First ask yourself, “Is this a home that will make the women I most desire to have sex with me?” most of the men I work with have to answer, “no”. When they look at their homes from the perspective of the women they desire, they find they can understand why these women wouldn’t want them.
Second, ask yourself, “What’s the message my home sends to the women I’m attracted to?” Most men find that their home doesn’t send the message they want to send. It sends messages like “I’m still a boy” or “I’m not really going anywhere in my life.” If your home doesn’t seem like a comfortable place to spend romantic time in, then you are sending a message that “romance isn’t important to me.”
Now think about homes you’ve seen that seem to send romantic messages to women. While many of these homes may seem expensive, and expensively furnished, their style follows basic principles you can follow, too, to make your home more inviting and romantic. While this entire list needs to be followed only right before a date, it will be easier for you if the basics are in place all of the time.
1. A Seductive home looks like an adult lives there
A seductive home is not a dorm room, a closet, a warehouse, a garbage dump, or a science experiment. It’s not a place for random friends to hang out, or a pornographic poster supply house. Any of these things will leave women thinking that you are still stuck in your adolescence, and they won’t desire you.
2. A seductive home is clean
Specifically, the details should be clean. It’s best if the miniblinds are clean , and there are no dust-bunnies in the corners. The areas that are most important to your date should be cleanest, and the areas that are least important, or that you think you can keep your date out of, can be ignored. If she wouldn’t see your kitchen unless she spent the night, for instance, you can get away without cleaning it. Because she will already have had sex with you by the time she sees it the next morning, the fact that it is a mess won’t wreck your chances with her.
The bathroom, on the other hand, must be absolutely clean. There is no middle ground on this one. One man I know tried to get around this by talking the lightbulb out of the bathroom so his date couldn’t see how dirty it was. This only annoyed her. You must clean the bathroom thoroughly before a date comes to your house.
3. A seductive home is properly lit
The lighting should be subdued and controlled. Bright overhead lights will make your date feel tense, like she’s being interrogated. Try soft, reflected light. This can be a lamp with a 40-watt bulb, rather than a 100-watt bulb, or candles, or light coming in from the next room. There should be shadows and patterns of light and mystery. It should be welcoming, not antiseptic. This idea is hard for many men to grasp because they are used to lighting spaces in order to get things done in them. Did you know that some women try to stay out of fluorescent lighting because of how it makes them look? Your seductive rooms aren’t workshops. Be sensitive to having romantic lighting.
4. A seductive home is unpacked and set up
It’s amazing how many people still live out of boxes years after moving into their homes. One man who’s lived in his house for four years still hasn’t put up his pictures. When I told him it could make his house more romantic, he replied “What’s the point of putting pictures up if the house isn’t clean?” While I agree that it’s important to have a clean house, it’s also important to have a set up home. Unpack those boxes, and hang those pictures!
5. A seductive home has romantic potential
A seductive home makes a woman feel like she’s in a place she can relax. The pictures on the walls don’t have to be originals, but they should be framed and hung properly. There are flowers and healthy-looking plants. The furniture is clean, and if it’s old or funky, it has a throw cover on it. The carpet has been vacuumed recently and there are no piles of paper or random belongings around. The music is soft and sexy. Everything seems to have a proper place, and is in it.
If you are going to have romantic dates in your home, coordinate your seductions with your roommates beforehand. If you want the living room for the evening, for instance, talk to housemates and see if they’ll stay out of the house till at least a certain hour. You don’t want to be interrupted by people coming in, just when you are going for that first kiss.
And speaking of interruptions, in homes with romantic potential, the volume on the answering machine is set to “zero”. More than one of my friends has been ready to make that first move when the phone has rung, the answering machines has picked up, and another woman’s voice has started blaring through the room! Turn answering machines down, and don’t answer the phone when you have a date over.
Your style in how you dress, how you keep your car, and how your home looks tells women a lot about you, and helps them decide whether to make you into a hot lover or a lowly “friend”. You must take control of these areas, and make sure that the messages you send with them are attractive, intriguing, mature and adult. Everything else you learn in this book can be undone by poor personal style. Make sure that you have it handled.
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