How To Succeed With Women

The Four Excuses That Keep You From Meeting Women

The reason Bob is so unsuccessful is that he lets negative beliefs run his life. He is probably a lot like you, and certainly a lot like us before we learned the secrets of seduction. His negative beliefs and concerns dictate how he acts, which, in turn, dictate how successful (or unsuccessful) he is with women. The concerns and beliefs become excuses that Bob uses to keep himself from pursuing women. The following four excuses are often occupying Bob’s mind, and they destroy his success with women. If you don’t deal with them, they will destroy your success with women, too.

Excuse 1. “It takes too much time.”
Bob looks at his daily schedule and whines that he simply doesn’t have enough time. He can’t meet women, he claims, because he is always busy. He claims he’s not scared of women, just too rushed, overloaded with too many responsibilities. We know this is not true. In fact, meeting women is not as time consuming as you may think, and much of the “dead time” in your life – waiting in lines, for instance – is prime women-meeting time.

As Bruce demonstrated, however, flirting and dating women does take sometime; there’s no way around it. But it is worth it. While dating women may take time up front, after the women are in place, the time required to maintain the relationships is very minimal.

Bruce doesn’t view flirting with and dating women as time-consuming because he enjoys it so much. To him, it is his fun-time. It is one of the things that brings him joy in his day. Occasionally it seems like work, buy usually he finds himself naturally interacting with women and talking without any effort on his part.

Once you have skills in place, you won’t have to spend nearly as much time on them. Bruce has many things he does on a daily basis that keep him in practice and make him succeed in dating. He talks to women, smiles and says “hi,” and flirts. These things don’t take much time on their own, but the cumulative effect is tremendous.

Excuse 2. “It will hurt my reputation”
Many men, bob included, worry too much about their reputations. They fear being “found out.” They worry that their friends will think they are desperate, and won’t respect them. Many people look down on men who are interested in dating, especially on those who are only looking for short-term sexual relationships. Some men don’t even try with women, because of this fear.

You handle this by being careful. You must be discreet and watch your back. It is okay to share your desires with your male friends. One caveat, though, is that hey must have earned your respect. In male friendships it is often necessary to test the other for his level of trustworthiness. If you trust another man, then you can tell him about your project of dating; otherwise don’t. A good rule of thumb is to keep your dating life and work life completely separate. It will insure your job and the integrity of your work relationships and will give you more freedom when you are with women no one else knows. After a while, if you have a serious girlfriend, then she can visit you at work. Otherwise, no.

Bob uses concerns about his reputation as an excuse to not get out there and talk to women. He says, “what if I do ask out that woman I’m so interested in? I can just see how disgusted she’ll be by the idea, and I just know she’ll tell all our mutual friends. I can see them now, laughing at me.” He also moans that he doesn’t like to go to pick-up bars because he fears he will see someone he knows.

These fears are totally stupid because if you see someone you know, each of you has the same knowledge of the other. If you keep your mouth shut, so will be. Having a certain level of concern about your reputation is healthy, but a paranoia for all potential situations will not allow you opportunities to meet women.

Excuse 3. “I just can’t do it.”
All of my friends, at some point, have felt as though they were fundamentally inadequate when it came to meeting women and dating. Perhaps they were just beginning to learn how to date women, and it all seemed too overwhelming. Or perhaps they had asked out ten women in a row, all of whom said “no.” Maybe the last three women they had seduced had gotten almost to the point of having sex with them, then decided to just be “friends.” Whatever the reason, t is only natural to sometimes feel as though you just can’t do it.

In a way, feeling like a failure is good because your dissatisfaction can get you in action, ready to fight back and prove that you can do it. Seen this way, feeling like a failure is actually an opportunity to prove that you aren’t one. You’ve probably experienced feeling bad about something until suddenly you couldn’t stand feeling bad about it anymore. People who are depressed often report that this happens; they can’t stand being so down anymore, so they begin changing and improving their lives. It’s sometimes said that it’s best to kick a man when he’s own; that way, he’ll get up faster. When thinking you can’t approach women gets painful enough, you’ll naturally start to approach them just to get rid of the pain of feeling like such a wimp.

You must make sure you get support when you think you can’t do it. If you have men friends who are also reading this blog, go to them to be reminded that things will get better, and to be reminded of the long-term goal you are working for. Go to men who will remind you of your successes with women so far, no matter how small they may be. When you have support, you’ll be able to keep trying.

Excuse 4. “I don’t know how to seduce women.”
No one taught you, or any of us, how to meet and seduce women. Some men are just “naturals” at it, while the rest of us have been relying on hope and luck. In a way, “I don’t know how to seduce women” is a reasonable concern. After all, it’s true, isn’t it?

You are holding in your hands the answer to this final excuse. Once you finish this book, and you know what there is to study and practice, all you to do is keep trying, and you will succeed.

These four excuses keep men from taking action to get the women they want. You must give them up and stop whining if you are going to become a seduction machine.

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