How To Succeed With Women

A Highly Successful Seducer always makes life work for him

You met her last week. Attractive, fit, blonde, and in her mid-20s. You had fun talking together, she readily gave you her phone number and agreed to meet for coffee. You arrive ten minutes early and are all ready for her to show up. You are waiting at the time she said she’d be there, waiting ten minutes past that time, and still waiting 30 minutes later. She still hasn’t show up. The question is, did you make it work for you, or didn’t you??

A man who makes life work for him has no difficulty in this situation. He’s brought some work to do, or some reading that is important for him to complete. He set up the date at a place and time convenient for him, so that if she didn’t show up it wouldn’t wreck his day. He works and flirts with the other women at the coffee shop and ends up having a good time anyway. After waiting 30 minutes, he left. When he calls the woman who didn’t show up, he’s not filled with unproductive resentment that she didn’t keep her word. He makes life work for him, and has a good time anyway.

A man who doesn’t make life work for him is so astounded that she said “yes” in the first place, that he bends over backwards to meet her for the coffee date. He may have canceled something important, rearranged his schedule, and come to an inconvenient place to meet her. He’ll have arrived ready to socialize and have no backup plan in place for when she doesn’t arrive. Even if she does arrive, 40 minutes late, he’s so angry and upset and humiliated that he can’t have a good time with her. He’s made himself a victim by not making like work for him.

This is a huge mistake that many of my friends make. They expect others, or their circumstances, to make like work for them. The man who is victimized by his date not showing up was expecting her to make the date work for him. As a result, he was a victim, just as you will be if you leave making your life work for you in the hands of other people.

If you are going to be a man who has a life that works, you must do this, too. Here are some of the questions a Highly Effective Seducer constantly asks himself:

- how can I make this experience work for me?

- what quality of experience am I committed to having, no matter what happens?

- What can I do, right now, to create that experience for myself?

- What’s most important to me in this situation?

- How can I get that?

- What would make this situation most fun?

By asking yourself these questions, and committing to making life work for you rather than counting on women to do it for you, you will become the kind of man women are most attracted to.

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