How To Succeed With Women

A Highly Successful Seducer makes it look like he’s not working on the romance.

What is the one difference between seducing a woman and having a job? At work you need to look as if you are working – in fact, the harder you look as if you are working, the better it is. The Highly Effective Seducer knows that when seducing a woman, the opposite is true: when you are with a woman, you absolutely must make everything look easy, even if you worked hard to set up the perfect romantic evening, or even if you hunted for hours to find the perfect little romantic gift.

One of my friend, for example, spent two weeks searching for a T-shirt for Rachael, the woman he was pursuing. He knew she would love the shirt and it would lead to a “reward” of some sort. When he gave it to her at an unexpected moment she threw her arms around him and gave him a huge passionate kiss. The response was better than he would have imagined. Had he told her that he only bought it just to charm her, to make her romantic, and that he methodically looked for it for weeks, she wouldn’t have been so happy.

A common bonehead mistake an ineffective seducer makes is that he expects a woman to acknowledge and thank him for all the work he’s done in seducing her. This is suicide. A woman will rarely, if ever, acknowledge that you have pursued her, called her, created good feelings for her, risked rejection in asking her out, risked rejection in touching her for the first time, kissing her, and every other initiation that you’ve made. After all, the seduction is happening effortlessly for her, isn’t it? It must be effortless! You will be happier to not even expect a woman to understand what you have gone through to make the romance seem effortless. She won’t appreciate it anyway. It is best to boast to your friends about your seduction schemes, rather than to you date.

Bringing up the fact that you are putting in effort that she isn’t appreciating will offend her. Look at it this way: she expects romance to happen, and the last thing she wants is a guy plotting how to get her. If you tell her about the work you are doing to seduce her, you break the magic spell, and she will accuse you of treating her like an object, not really caring about her as a person, manipulating her to get sex, and she will be angrier than you can possibly imagine.

Do what the Effective Seducers do. Make it look like you’re not working, and the women you desire will be yours.

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