How To Succeed With Women

How To Succeed With Women: Confidence !

What kind of woman do you want? What’s most important to you in a woman? Is it that she be tall, or short? That she have wonderful breasts? That she be blonde, or brunette? That she be smart or rich? What exactly do you want?

These may seem like confrontational questions. For men who are living in a sexual desert, the answer may well be “any woman at all”! Strange as it may seem, you’ll have better chances of getting a woman if you are looking for one with specific qualities than you will if you are looking for any woman at all. So we ask again, what kind of woman do you want?

There’s an old saying, “If you don’t have any destination in mind, any road will take you there.” You really have to decide what you want in a woman to make use of the information in this chapter to find out what you need to do – what roads to take – to get her.

Once you have an idea of what you want, here’s the next step: think about the kind of woman you desire. Think about her style, her grace, her beauty. Now ask yourself: “if I were to have a woman like this, what kind of a man would I have to be?”

This question is crucial because it will guide you in your quest. What kind of a man would you have to be to have the kind of women you desire? The first mistake men make in answering this question is that they think they would have to be more than they could ever possibly be. They doom themselves, with answers like “to have the women I really desire, I’d have to be a millionaire,” or “to have the women I really desire, I’d have to be a professional basketball player.” Or, they come up with criteria that doom them from a physical standpoint: “to have the woman I desire, I’d have to be taller,” or “to have the woman I desire, I’d have to be more handsome,” or “to have the women I desire, I’d have to be younger,” or “to have the woman I desire, I’d have to not have [whatever you think is wrong with you.]”

That’s all nonsense. You don’t have to be fundamentally different from what you are to get the women you desire. You don’t have to be richer, or taller, or better looking. Look: the truth about women is very simple. You can have the woman you desire if you can make her feel the romantic feelings she most wants to feel. When we ask “what would you have to be like to have the women you desire,” we are simply asking you to think about the parts of yourself you’ll have to accentuate if you are to make the women you desire feel romantically about you.

The second mistake men make in answering this question is that they decide that they have to become somebody they are not, fake men, supermen. They imagine they’ll have to become basically different from what they honestly are. They think they’ll have to become James Bond, or some sort of a “tough guy” action hero who they really aren’t. they think that to get women, they’ll have to betray themselves. They are afraid of trying to be who they aren’t, and for good reason. Most men who approach women trying to be completely different from who they basically are come across like Saturday Night Live’s “Wild and Crazy Guys,” trying to look hip for the “foxes”, but really just liking like fools. As you’ll see in this chapter, you’ll need to stretch yourself, but not betray yourself.

Most men discover that while they don’t need to be different from who they really are, they do need to develop who they are more thoroughly. They find that they need to develop their Personal Style which has two parts: style, that is, how you dress, and confidence how you behave. While you don’t have to change who you are as a person, you will probably find you have to change how you express who you are – your personal style – if you want to get the woman of your dreams.

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