How To Succeed With Women

How To Succeed With Women: What You Say With How You Dress

A wise person once said, “I’ve never met a person who wasn’t carefully costumed”. I agree. No matter how you are dressed right now, on some level you have chosen your outfit because it makes a statement you want to make.

When women look at how you dress, it makes a statement to them. One of my friend, Ray (fake name to protect identity), was an older man who had been having trouble getting dates for many years. He wore garish, brightly colored clothes that clashed with each other, and from a stylistic perspective, looked terrible. His ex-wife told him he “made a mockery of style”. On top of this, he rarely bothered to bathe or shave, so he often smelled bad. On a subconscious level, by wearing clothes women wouldn’t like, Ray was constantly saying “Go to Hell”! to women. He was saying this to his mother, to women in his life now, and to every woman he’d ever felt controlled by. He would complain about how women didn’t like how he dressed, and wouldn’t date him, but as we got to know him, we saw that it was more important to him to insult women’s sensibilities than it was for him to get sex. Because of his style, his mere presence offended women. And he wondered why he couldn’t get women into bed!

Other men make more constructive statements to women through the way they dress. Think about some men you know, or have seen, whose style of dress is attractive to women. You might think of John Travolta, playing the character Chili Palmer in the film Get Shorty. He always looked good, wore clothes that fit, and had a style that fit him. His style said “I’m an attractive man who know what he’s about. I’m not stuck in making some immature statement. You want me in your life.” This is what you want to say, too.

What does your way of dressing say to women? Does it say that you are mature, attractive, in love with our life, confident, and of interest to her? Or does your way of dressing send out a more immature message?

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