How To Succeed With Women

Other Ways to Overcome The Fear of Rejection

Have a “piece on the side.” As you begin to develop your harem of available sex kittens, you are at a disadvantage. As usual, success breeds success. The more sex you are getting, the more confident about sex you will become and the more new women you will attract. But at the beginning, you don’t have the confidence of lots of past success, and that slows down your ability to get that first woman on a date and into bed

Though it is not available to every man, having a “piece on the side” can generate the erotic confidence that allows you to get even more women. A “piece on the side” is a woman who you have occasional sex with – say, once a month – though you might not really want her very much. She is a woman you know you can have, but who isn’t attractive enough for you to try to start a relationship with. Am occasional sex partner like this can build your sexual self-esteem and enable you to take the risks that get you into bed with the women you really want.

So who could be a potential “piece on the side?” They may be ex-girlfriend, women who are not extremely attractive, much older women, close female friends, women who understand you don’t want a relationship, or married women. When you have a “piece on the side,” you know you aren’t a total loser. If you look hard enough at your life you will usually find at least one woman who would sleep with you. Try her out and see what happens.

I’ve had friends say “Yeah, the date didn’t go so well, so afterwards I went to the house of my “piece on the side.” They were able to get sex when they wanted it. As a result, they were empowered to pursue the sex they really wanted.

Get you validation from your life, not from women. Too many men rely on women for their sense of validation, self-respect, and self-esteem. They live as if women’s opinions of them are what matters. If they have a good interaction with an attractive woman, they feel good about themselves. When an interaction goes bad, they feel badly about themselves. This need to be validated by women in order to feel good about themselves robs these men of their confidence with women.

If you want to have an easy sense of confidence with women, how do you make this work? Practically, this means finding ways to be in love with your own life, and to have the things you are up to in your life be validating for you. Success with women and success with life are similar. Just as women won’t go out of their way to bring you sexual success, life doesn’t go out of its way to bring you life-success. Just as your sex life is your responsibility to make the way you want it, your life as a whole is your responsibility to make the way you want it. If you want success with women, it makes sense to have long-term goals for your life that inspire you and that you are moving towards, no matter how slowly. If you do this, you’ll get your validation from your lift, rather than from woman.

Woman are attracted to men who have passion and fire for their lives. They aren’t any more interested in providing the validation for your life than you are in providing the validation for theirs. When you have goals, male friends, and a life that inspires you, you’ll be validated by what you are up to, and women will want to be a part of your life. If won’t matter to you if they say “yes” or “no” when you ask them out, seduce them, and go for that first kiss. You’ll be validated by your life, and easily able to move on the next woman.

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