How To Succeed With Women

The 13-Point Body Makeover For Being Attractive To Women

1. Hair
Hair has to be taken care of to look good: the movie stars who seem to have rumpled, disorderly hair actually spend a fortune in time and money to get it to look “just so”. While short hair doesn’t always look better than long, many men who have long hair used to look good with it, but, now that they are getting older, don’t anymore.

My friend, Jim, discovered that, for his hair to look best, he needed to blow-dry it with styling gel after washing it, which he began doing on a near-daily basis. He began using conditioner to make it fuller and softer. He noticed an immediate change in his life; women seemed more interested in him. He decided that, in view of the new found feminine attention, having to use a blow-dryer was not such a big problem.

It’s important that your hair look good. It should not be greasy, out-of-control. And you should not have dandruff. Go to a real hair stylist, and get a look that is good for you. Men who are balding have several options. Even if you are balding, your hair can still look good and be styled well. Just watch out for the trap balding men fall into of combing just a few hairs across the bald top of their heads. It doesn’t work and women, especially, find it unattractive. Just remember Star Trek’s bald Captain Picard, and let your bald head shine.

I’ve also known balding men who have created a powerful, attractive look by keeping their heads shaven. Admittedly, it takes some gets to do this, but if you have an attractive skull, it can really look good.

2. Eyebrows/Ear Hair/ Nose Hair
Most men don’t have a problem with their eyebrows, but it makes sense to check yours and be sure. Some men’s eyebrows grow very long and need to be trimmed. Several of our students have gray hairs in their eyebrows that grow, if unhindered, to an inch long or longer. These men must pluck or trim these hairs on a regular basis.

Ear hair and nose hair must be trimmed regularly. You might not notice if this hair grows long, and your male friends might not notice, but woman you find attractive will. You can use little scissors or special trimmers to trim these hairs at least once every two weeks. Hair should not protrude from the nose or ears. Stray hairs growing on your ears should also be trimmed.

3. Glasses
Like many men, Jim wore glasses. His looked old, scratched, and he seemed to need to squint to see through them. He went to his optometrist to get his prescription updated, then accompanied him to find the right pair of frames.

If you wear glasses, choosing the right frames is very important. The bad news is, really stylish frames can cost two or three hundred dollars. The good news is that having to wear glasses is a great opportunity to choose frames that will enhance your attractiveness noticeable. It’s worth shopping around for the frames that look the best on your face. Go to high-end stores as well as the cheaper ones. Every woman who sees you will see your glasses, so it’s worth getting ones that really look great.

4. Snorting and Phlegm
You are attractive and dressed well, but always seemed to need to clear your throat, and spit. You became so used to this that you hardly even knew you did it anymore, but every time you’d take a big snorting inhale, women noticed, and didn’t want to be around with you.

Women find snorting and spitting of phlegm very revolting. I know you find it disgusting too, but take it from me, what you feel is nothing compared to how women feel about it. If you find that you have problems with phlegm, you must find out why, and solve them. Many people who have excess phlegm have allergies to dairy foods, and find it clears up if they avoid milk products or take enzymes to help them digest lactose. If you have these problems, seek professional help and get the phlegm cleared up, or the message you’ll send to women is “I’m disgusting. Stay away from me.”

5. Facial Hair
Jim had a beard, and, at first, I suggested that he try shaving it off. Unless a beard is well-kept and trimmed regularly, it won’t be attractive on most men. I thought Jim’s beard made him look like a slob, so I suggested he shave it off.

While many men look better without bears, Jim wasn’t one of them. “My God,” he said after he shaved it off. “I look like those newspaper pictures of Dave Barry!” I agreed that it wasn’t the right look for him, and he grew in a short, well-trimmed beard that went with his hair, and looked great on him.

The biggest problem men have with beards is that they let them get too wild. Pick a style, and keep the beard neat. The biggest problem women tell me that they have with men’s bears is that the bears tend to get scratchy. If you do have a beard, be sure to use conditioner on it to keep it soft.

6. Lips
And speaking of soft, if you plan to be kissing women, you need to keep your lips soft. If they are rough women will notice, and not want to kiss you. We know it seems petty, but it’s true. Remember, when you are first dating a woman, she has you on probation. Sure, you’re exciting, but dating you also puts her at risk of emotional entanglements and getting hurt. While you are thinking of how great it’s going to be to have sex with her, she’s looking for a reason to send you back into the slammer with all those other guys, so she can get back to her nice, orderly life. For this reason you must have your details in order. And for this reason, your lips must be soft. Use lip balm.

7. Teeth
I also asked Jim to the dentist to get his teeth cleaned, and if you haven’t had yours cleaned in the last six months, you should make an appointment, too. Jim didn’t want to go, so I had him create a reward that would motivate him. He decided that as a reward for getting his teeth cleaned, he’d take himself out to the local strip club and have a good time. With the prospect of naked women dangling before him, he was able to get in and have more than five years of crud scraped off his teeth. They looked whiter, and felt smoother and cleaner to him. After all, if you expect a woman to stick her tongue in there, you want your mouth to be as clean as possible.

8. Skin
Smooth soft skin is important to women, especially on your face. If you tend to five o’clock shadow, be sure to shave again before going out on a date. If you have rough hands, start using moisturizer to soften them up. Most women aren’t interested in men who have rough, sandpaper-like hands.

9. Smells
It’s hard to underestimate the negative consequences of smelling bad to a woman. A surprising number of the women that interviewed said that they had been on dates where they would have had sex with the man, if only he hadn’t smelled bad. It is important that you bathe regularly, own deodorant, and use it. Remember, if you think you might smell bad to women, then you do.

You should also know that, as one women from the interviewed said, “nothing is more of a turn-off than the smell of feces.” If you tend to have gas, then you must do something about it. Products like Beano can help you pass less gas. You may even need to see a doctor if you have a serious gas problem.

This is no small concern. Studies show that women have a more developed sense of smell than men do. Smells that don’t seem too bad to men can be quite repellent to women. If you want to have sex with attractive women, then you must manage your smells. Men who refuse to handle this problem send the message to women that they are more interested in passing gas than they are in having sex with women. Women conclude that such men are immature, and they are right.

It’s also critical that you have good breath. Again and again, the women that interviewed told that men who have bad breath turn them off. Reena from the interviewed group is a typical of these women, when she says “Sure, I can think of a number of guys I was ready to have sex with, but then noticed they had bad breath. I figured I didn’t want them after all.” You must brush your teeth regularly, and if you think your breath might be bad, it is. Carry mints with you, but don’t take them in front of her. For some reason, women seem to think that men who take steps to have good breath are vain, even while they say that men who smell bad are slobs. Excuse yourself to the bathroom and take the breath mint there.

If you use aftershave lotion, be sure to not use too much. As the saying goes, a dab’ll do. Women aren’t attracted to guys who wear so much lotion that smell rays seem almost to be radiating from their bodies. The man you’d have to be to get the kind of woman you want probably doesn’t smell too bad, or too good.

10. Pockets
Just as you can have a wonderful, expensive desk, and overload the drawers to the point where they can’t be closed, you can have wonderful, stylish clothes, and overload the pockets to the point where your nice slick clothes make you look like an old lumpy mattress.

While women carry purses that they overfill, men overfill their pockets. If you want to be attractive to women, you must carry as little as possible in your pockets, so you don’t look lumpy and your clothes don’t get stretched.

11. Belt
Your belt is one of the small particulars of your dress that you must have under control if you want women to be attracted to you. If you are wearing a cheap cardboard belt, or if your belt is falling apart, you won’t be sending an attractive message to women. Likewise, if you are using the biggest or the smallest hole in your belt, you might look silly, and should consider getting a belt that fits you better. If you are at all overweight, it’s better to not have too fancy a belt-buckle, as it will draw attention to your waist, which is not where you want women to look. Get a simpler belt-buckle until you’ve slimmed down.

12. Socks and Shoes
if you’ll look closely at your socks, you’ll find that there is an inside and an outside, and that it’s possible to wear them inside out. Though few men would ever notice this, women tell us that they do. Wear your socks the right side out.

Women also evaluate men by the quality of their shoes. It’s hard for most men to comprehend the amount of time women spend thinking about shoes. They have conversations with each other about shoes; they spend discreet blocks of time shoe shopping; they sit around thinking about what shoes to wear with what outfits. The more attractive a women you are interested in is, the more time she probably spends thinking about shoes.

With this in mind, you shouldn’t be too surprised to find out that she also judges and think about your shoes. So you should be ready. The sad fact is, you probably need more and better shoes. Jim had his dirty sneakers, his messed-up dress shoes, and a very uncomfortable pair of dress shoes that he wore the two times a year he put on his only suit. Through his work with us, he realized that, to be the kind of man who attracted the kind of women he wanted, he’d need some new shoes. He visited a number of stylish shoe boutiques and got several pair of sexy new shoes.

He also brought shoe trees, which are brilliant wood or plastic devices that you put in your shoes when you take them off to help them keep their shape and last years longer. He also committed himself to having his shoes shined regularly, and to replacing the shoelaces before they become too frayed. He realized that, just as he didn’t want to wear wrinkled clothes, he wouldn’t be attractive to women wearing wrinkled shoes.

13. Posture
Jim had what I call “adolescent posture.” He slumped like a teenager, and shuffled when he walked. His shoulders were rounded, and his head was forward. He looked unobtrusive and timid, but realized that he needed to look powerful and decisive to get the women he desired.

There are a lot of kinds of bodywork you can get if you, like Jim, suffer from poor posture. You may want to explore chiropractic, which is often at least partially covered by insurance, to improve your posture. Other men get regular massage, or go through a process called “Rolfing” or Neuro-Muscular Therapy to improve posture. Jim started getting chiropractic care and regular massage treatment. He soon was standing straighter and taller, his shoulders seemed broader and less tense, and he walked straighter and more upright. As a plus, his lower back pain cleared up. “I feel more solid now,” he told us, “and more able to meet attractive women on their own ground.” Better posture made him more into the kind of man who would be attractive to the kind of women he desired.

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